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Dance With My Father


This week’s guest blogger is a beautiful young polynesian teine by the name of Cynthia Stevenson.

I follow her on twitter (@Teinetoa4lyphe) and a few days ago something inside of me told me to ask her to be a guest blogger. Like most days, Cyn had tweeted something profound that day, of which I retweeted. In that tweet something moved me. I’m extremely grateful God spoke to me to reach out to her because this song has a special place in my heart. I’m honored, humbled and blessed that she opened up about this particular life experience.

I love you Cyn! Thank you for sharing a piece of your life with me and my readers. I’m sending you hugs, kisses and love your way sis!

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Dance With My Father

Music has been and will always be an integral part of my life. Music for me really does make my world go round. Whatever emotion I am feeling can be expressed through a talented artist’s lyrics and melody. I love that a song I hear today can so easily transport me back to a time when something happened in my life whether it was a major or minor event. Music inspires me. Music moves me. Music is a part of who I am. Music makes me feel. But most importantly, Music reminds me of my dad who I love and miss.

Recently I lost my dad, and music, among other things, is what brought my family comfort during this time. I loved his final services both family/funeral services because of the music that was sung. We sang many songs that were some of his favorites. One song we sang was a song that my dad learned while in college when he was part of a group that celebrated Native American, Polynesian, and Latin American music and dance. The song is titled “Go My son.” Dad loved this song and made us sing it often while growing up to remind us of the value of getting an education. Some of the words from that song are:

“Go, my son, go and climb the ladder.
Go, my son, go and earn your feather.
Go, my son, make your people proud of you.
Work, my son, get an education.
Work, my son, learn a good vocation and
Climb, my son. Go and take a lofty view.
From on the ladder of an education,
You can see to help your Indian (Samoan) Nation,
And reach, my son, and lift your people up with you.”

My dad loved music in all forms whether it was singing, dancing, playing an instrument, etc. He especially loved to dance and sing whenever he had a chance to do so. He was a natural performer and was never afraid to stand up and perform when called upon to do so. I have many fond memories of him dancing with my mom in the living room as he taught her to how to rock n’ roll. Then onto the dance floor and oh, how I loved to watch my parents dance together. I hope someday to have that type of relationship where they seemed to move and flow so smoothly together as dance partners on the dance floor and in life.

Whatever church dance we attended in my youth years, my dad’s rule was if you just sit and don’t dance, then we’re going home. So of course, my siblings and I took every opportunity to get on the dance floor or we’d get a head nod from Dad that it was time to go.

My dad was an athlete and loved all types of sports and could play them well. He loved playing basketball, rugby, boxing, and wrestling. In fact, when he and my mom were planning a family he told my mom that he wanted all boys to have his own basketball team. Yes, he wanted 10 kids-average Polynesian family right? Unfortunately, mom gave birth to four girls first before his first boy so we made up his team and my parents only had 9 kids but we still had enough eventually for 2 teams.

I can remember many early Saturday mornings being woken up by my dad to run basketball drills. My dad was always on the go with his job, and fulfilling his religious responsibilities. At end of 2008, however, Dad had a stroke and he was never quite the same after that. Things that used to come easily to him were now a struggle. It was hard for him and for us to see him get frustrated easily with his body’s limitations to do things. However, he would still light up when it was time to sing, dance, watch sports, or spend time with his grandkids.

Last Christmas was the last time I saw my dad alive. He and my mom traveled to where the majority of us lived to spend Christmas with us. We had gone to a Christmas party for our church and it was a dinner/dance activity. Dad, however, didn’t want to eat. He wanted to dance. The DJ was playing songs during dinner and Dad stood up and said he was ready to dance. We told him it was not time to dance and he said, “Who said? If I want to dance, I’m going to dance. I want to rock n’ roll.” But we (my mom, siblings, and I) all insisted he sit down and eat. Then when it was time to dance we would dance. Well, Dad was not happy with that. He got upset and then said to take him home. Nothing we could say could persuade him to change his mind to stay.

My heart breaks whenever I hear the song, Dance with My Father, by Luther Vandross, because I know that I won’t get an opportunity in this life to dance one more time with my Dad. I have many happy memories of dancing with him but I wish I could get another chance to “dance with my Father again.”

Oh how I wish I could turn back the hands of time if I had known that night would be the last time I would get a chance to dance with him in this life. I would have jumped up and said, “yes, daddy, let’s go dance.” Who cares if everyone was still eating dinner, why couldn’t we have danced? This is my one regret that I didn’t have that chance to have one last dance with my Father. Daddy, I love you!

Music gives me hope. Music encourages me to keep moving and progressing. Music reminds me to treasure the things that truly matter in life. Don’t take for granted what truly matters like family or life. I miss you Daddy! I know we will be reunited someday. I know you are looking down on us too and watching over us now! Families are Forever!

Dance with my Father – Lyrics by Luther Vandross
Back when I was a child Before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high And dance with my mother and me and then

Spin me around till I fell asleep Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved

If I could get another chance Another walk, another dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
How I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again

When I and my mother would disagree To get my way I would run from her to him
He’d make me laugh just to comfort me, yeah, yeah Then finally make me do just what my mama said

Later that night when I was asleep He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he Would be gone from me

If I could steal one final glance One final step, one final dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
‘Cause I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again

Sometimes I’d listen outside her door And I’d hear her, mama cryin’ for him
I pray for her even more than me I pray for her even more than me

I know I’m prayin’ for much too much
But could You send back the only man she loved
I know You don’t do it usually
But Lord, she’s dyin’ to dance with my father again
Every night I fall asleep
And this is all I ever dream

Until Next time,

XoXoX

Lia

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18 comments on “Dance With My Father

  1. Lani Wendt Young
    October 26, 2011

    A beautiful piece that had me thinking about my own father and the relationship I am blessed to share with him. Thank you Cynthia for sharing this and thank you LyfesLyrics for introducing us to Cynthia’s work!

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 26, 2011

      The waterworks were flowing when I first read it, first edited it and posted it.
      Thank you Cynthia!

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      • Cyn. (@Teinetoa4lyphe)
        October 26, 2011

        Thanks Lia and Lani for your kind words. I needed it more than you’ll ever know. It was a much needed outlet for me and I realized I needed to write more. I do believe God answers prayers through others so thank you Lia for listening and acting upon it. Hope to continue writing!
        alofas,

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      • LyfesLyfe
        October 28, 2011

        We’re definitely going to continue to encourage you to express yourself. I truly enjoyed your piece and look forward to the day when you write regularly. 🙂

        Ofa lahi atu sis,
        Lia

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  2. Bella Lu (@BellaLuMai)
    October 26, 2011

    I LOVE this piece Cyn! Brought to mind my own memories of my father who died in 2001. Hehehehehehe!…. Dads… they set the bar high for our husbands (both former & enroute) to hit. Men like our fathers just don’t seem to get made any more. Maybe they’re just Work In Progress at the moment? Ha! They’d better be workin’ something if they’re gonna be what we need! LOL! Cyn… write, write & write some more. Take the chance & do it. You have some powerful stuff in you that needs to be heard out here in the world.

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 28, 2011

      I agree Bella. Our fathers set such a high standard. Lord knows we women pray for our lovers to be somewhat of an inkling of our fathers and even Christ-like.

      We definitely need to nudge Cyn to continue writing. We need more poly writers!

      Thank you for stopping though my blog to read Cyn’s post! Such a blessing and honor.

      Lia

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  3. Marti
    October 26, 2011

    Cynthia is one of my closest friends, example, leader and most of all my sister. She has been a light to me in some of my darkest nights and an example of hope when all I wanted to do was give up. Once again she teaches me to live on when your heart is broken. What a beautiful tribute to her father. He is proud and misses you too Cynthia.

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 28, 2011

      Thank you Marti! It’s an honor and blessing to know that when God spoke within me to reach out to her that from her heart and soul she’d birth a beautiful piece to share with us all.

      I guess in a sense the love and strength she has showed you, God used me as a vessel in the same manor? I’m just humbled she agreed to write, and really touched it was on this topic.

      Thanks again for reading as well as commenting.

      Ofa lahi atu sis,
      Lia

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  4. Cyn. (@Teinetoa4lyphe)
    October 28, 2011

    Yes, Lia, you superwoman you….and now vessel too!

    Wow, thanks again for the nudges and pokes to pick up writing again. I am doing it right now. I’ll post up my blog this weekend for sure. Writing does help me in addition to listening to music. I am feeling more whole again. Losing my dad and other events have made me feel like I was drowning in pain/sorrow… literally, emotionally, physically, mentally, … to the point where I stopped listening to music for a time. I cut out the world and it was silent, dark, and scary. I don’t want to go back to that place.

    Music truly saved me again and now writing will help me fill in the pieces so that I am ABOVE water – treading, swimming, doing the backstroke even…ha! .. and there is sunshine and light in addition to good friends/family. How grateful I will ever be for prayers answered in a time of need. Even if I haven’t met you Lani/Lia, I feel a connection to you both.

    Thank you also Lu and Marti. Appreciate both of your comments also!

    Alofa atu ia outou uma ou uso! thank you my sisters…

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 28, 2011

      Awww Cyn! Always know I’m here for you, as I’m sure Lani is as well. We look forward to reading your future posts sis.

      {{Hugs and Kiss}}

      Lia

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  5. Alice Burgess
    October 28, 2011

    Awww I love this.
    Again, twice in one night I have been brought to tears reading other ppls posts. I love this, I esp love the relationship you and your siblings have/had with your dad and cherish my relationship with my dad… Thanks for sharing your link, girl you are a NATURAL and one of the ones I said I envy – natural talent. Keep it up!!!

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 28, 2011

      Thank you Alice for stopping by my blog to read this week’s guest blog. Cyn is definitely a blessing! I cry everytime I approve a comment because I know how much this post has touched me and I can feel that it’s had the same effect on each reader.

      Thanks again for stopping through to read and comment.

      Ofa atu,
      Lia

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  6. Cyn. (@Teinetoa4lyphe)
    October 29, 2011

    Aw…making me blush over here my sistas…Alice, thank you for your kind comments. Great to meet you on twitter and to follow yours and Lia’s blog. You guys are the experts. I’m hoping to keep at this…writing…

    You don’t know how much I needed to do this so thank you Lia for listening….and asking ….
    I’m more blessed…
    Alofas,
    Cyn.

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    • LyfesLyfe
      October 29, 2011

      Awww Cyn, thank you again! I can’t say it enough.

      Ofa lahi atu sis,
      Lia

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  7. Tee
    January 9, 2012

    Sad read but it really makes you appreciate the thoughts/time you have with your own father. @Teinetoa4Lyphe God willing you and your family are stronger thru the experience of losing a loved one (especially pops) and in return your words are encouraging enough to be a blessing to someone who doesn’t spend that quality time with their mother/father and hopefully it gets out to touch the next person out there reading your story to do so. Keep your head to the sky and continue to believe 🙂

    @Lyfes – Thanks for sharing this read with me. It definitely hit the spot thinking about my own pops, my lil brother who now is a father too and of course my moms!

    Tee

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    • LyfesLyfe
      January 9, 2012

      Thank you for reading an commenting Tee. This post still makes me emotional.

      Lia

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  8. Hollis Fullenkamp
    September 13, 2014

    Useful post, just what I was looking for.

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    • LyfesLyrics
      September 21, 2014

      Thank you Hollis! Come back again!

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