My Lyfestyle Through Lyrics
Everyone loves a fairytale ending to a love story… or do they? Sometimes the journey of life will lead a person to a fork in the road where you’re faced with choosing between love and another passion or life goal. The beauty and adventure in life is when the road leading to love is chosen. A couple’s initial meeting, the courtship, taking things to the next level, the engagement, the marriage, starting a family… and then they ride off into the sunset happily ever after, right? Yeah right! Love would be boring without tragedy, tumultuous times and triumph.
As most of you know, I use lyrics as a means to express my life experiences to the world. Honestly, I’ve been through and am going through a lot but I never like to share my problems with too many people because everyone has their own life issues going on. However, for the sake of therapy, I felt like sharing a little bit of my life experiences as they relate to Pop/R&B/Latin artist Jae’are‘s music short Criminal. Although Criminal provides more of an exaggeration of how I can relate to the topics Jae’are sings about, it’s relatable nonetheless.
The movie Criminal is about love, betrayal and revenge. Anyone who’s been in love knows all too well how wonderful it feels to not only be loved, but also how exuberant one feels when loving someone. It’s all the other extra bullshit that comes along with loving someone that turns a person’s world upside-down. The lies, the cheating, the betrayal, the fighting… whatever the form of negativity that creeps it’s way into any relationship can quickly make things go sour. However, that initial attraction, the chase and honeymoon phase of a relationship is the bliss people look forward to. Heck, I know I love those phases because of the sheer happiness and joy felt with every moment. It’s the phases after that, that I’m not too fond of because of the choices made by the other person. The fighting because of lying, cheating, insecurities, possessiveness, obsessiveness, jealousy, etc. Like I said, all the other bullshit that comes along with loving someone is what’s draining and frustrating, and can ultimately be the demise of a relationship when pushed to the brink. Yet, the true mark of a man/woman is the patience, sacrifice and fight they have left in them to make a relationship truly work.
But even after overcoming so many obstacles, a person makes a choice to continue seeing that person or moving on to another situation they feel of which they’re more deserving. I’ve been through these kind of relationships. I’m a stronger person now because of what I’ve been through. But having gone through all of that, my greatest fear is being hurt again. Building up a fortress, just to have it all come down because someone was so patient and devoted to tearing it down to show me that he’s different from all the other men I’ve dealt with or society warns us about. Even in doing that, the vulnerability and the fear of being hurt again is the scariest feeling in the world. Like the ending of the video, sometimes I just want to blow shit up, salute the remnants left in the flames and walk off into the sunset like actors do in a movie. But like love, happy endings aren’t all that simple.
If you could choose your happy ending, what would it be and why? How can you relate to the storyline of Jae’are‘s music short Criminal?
Until next post,